Wednesday, March 27, 2013

...Caitlin Has Three Mommies...

I heard someone say, “Only a man can be a father and only a woman can be a mother.”

Biologically, sure.

But that doesn’t mean they’re good parents.

Caitlin is one of the sweetest, smartest little cookies I know and she’s being raised by her mom, grandmom, and aunt. If her dad never comes home, is her family not really a family? Is it only a family if a man and a woman are present? What if her dad dies in active duty? What if he comes back a woman? What if he runs off with someone else never to see those he left behind ever again?

Tommy is being raised by his Uncle Stuart.

Stuart might be one of the funniest people I’ve ever met. He’s an oncologist so it’s probably safe to say he’s smart. Not bad looking either.

And his boyfriend is pretty cool, too.

They don’t live together, so you can’t really say that Tommy has two daddies but they travel together, have meals together and Boyfriend probably knows as much about Tommy as most parents know about their own kids, maybe more. (Honestly, after elementary school, my Dad couldn’t name but a few of my teachers – mostly the ones I didn’t like.)

And you’ve heard me mention my cousin Keri. When she wasn’t spending the summer with us, she was raised by my grandmother, who was actually her great-grandmother. (The women in my family live long and strong.)

These kids are well loved and cared for and they don’t know or care anything about idiot adults and their idiot ideas about marriage.

If marriage is only for those who will procreate, then I guess that would eliminate couples with reproductive issues, couples that know they don’t want to have kids, and older adults who find love later in life.

We’re grasping at straws here, desperately trying to come up with a reason to not allow same sex couples to have the same benefits (or pitfalls) of marriage as a couple consisting of a man and a woman. (And hey, suppose that man was born a girl or that woman was born a boy? After gender reassignment, they fit nice and neatly into the so called standard couple definition, so there!)

Two men or two women want to have their union legally acknowledge for the same reason some of you walked down the aisle. Some of you did it to show commitment, some of you did it for financial reasons, immigration reasons, or other legal reasons. And I know more than a few of you did it because you were already pregnant, so don’t go acting all holier than thou, okay? You’re busted.

If we say we are doing these things for the kids, then consider what the kids want.

Many of them will tell you that they would like to see their parents married. And that’s true no matter what the couple composition- mom/mom, dad/dad, mom/dad.

Legalized “gay marriage” will not make “straight marriage” illegal. You will still be free to get married- get divorced- then repeat all you wish.

It won’t personally harm your relationship in any way. And for those of you hiding behind the Bible again, God will not punish you because the law officially says love is legal between two consenting adults.

Remember, God’s overall message is love, and lifting the fallen.

Honestly, if you read the bible, probably the biggest offenses to God is allowing poverty. Go get on your high horse and make a speech about that. Or better yet, invest the time and energy into doing some volunteer work to alleviate poverty in this country and in the world.

Plus, volunteering is fun, can really make a difference, and will introduce you to new, wonderful people and experiences.

And my friends Caitlin and Tommy will back me up on that.

Beatles - Eleanor Rigby (strings only)

I had this opening looping in my brain for months before I finally figured it out

Breaks Co-op – Duet

Zhane – Crush

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